This came as a complete shock to Matt and I. Yes, I was at the U of M ears/nose/throat doctor but I went with one banana at nap time thinking we were going to have a quick conversation about tubes. 5 hours, 3 tests, and an ear molding for hearing aids later, I left to drive home. My phone died by the time the banana was gone. So when I showed up 3 hours late at dinner time, Matt knew something was wrong.
We had no indication this was coming. Emma seems to be hearing fine and her words are actually coming along great. But, apparently, partial hearing loss is like that. If we had not had her tested, we may not have known until she was 4 or 5 when her speech was delayed.
In fact...when we got home, my pediatrician actually said the hearing and eye test were not required if I did not suspect anything. I scheduled the eye appt about a month ago when a few ppl mentioned that Emma had a lazy eye (of course I didn't notice that either) and the hearing test got scheduled routinely at that time. So while this is heartbreaking for me as a mama, I am very glad we were able to detect this early.
We are still absorbing this information and trying to understand what it means. If you know of anyone who also has a child who is hard of hearing, please pass their information along (or pass them my blog). To be brutally honest, hearing loss was not one of the needs we said we were comfortable with when we first started Emma's adoption. Emma's referral listed her hearing as 'normal'.
Some friends have asked me if I am upset with China for the missed diagnosis. After 4 days of thinking about it, I realize I am not upset at all. God knew better then to list her file as hard of hearing. He knew we were her parents and lined up everything to make that happen. Matt and I may think we know what we 'need' but God is the only one who really knows that. We just have to let go and trust that things will work out!
In the meantime, Emma is just adjusting great. She says mama now and I know she means me (for those adoptive parents out there you know how amazing this feeling is)! She also says dada, nana (banning), more, poo poo, & bye bye. Moreover, we have twice caught her fake crying after she 'fake' fell down while playing with Lexie. Smart girl. :-)
Emma in FL in early March - see full pictures of our vacation here!
Please pray for Matt and I as we figure out how to navigate these waters. Pray to give us peace with this diagnosis and to give us the guidance of what we can do to help our little miracle continue to grow & adjust.