The reality of being home is that Emma has a hard time staying asleep. She is awake all night tossing and turning, checking, and rechecking to make sure we are still there. We have been co-sleeping with her but she still wakes up to check and recheck.
When we first got home, I thought she just wanted to co-sleep (I had been fighting that in China to keep my rest). We thought that perhaps her foster family co-slept and that if we did that she would sleep more soundly. It didn't help. 4 days later, we were just all exhausted. Then, 2 nights ago, my DH agreed to sleep on her floor as she slept in her toddler bed (as opposed to the crib she slept in while in China). She still popped her head up every 40 mins to check that he was there; however, as long as he was there, she was good and went back down to sleep (on her own!). She didn't need us in bed with her, she just wanted to make sure we hadn't left her. :-(
I have a great online community of adoptive parents that are helping me brainstorm my way around this while Emma learns we are not going anywhere. We are pulling out every stop in the book -- natural products, music, a lovey, etc. Honestly, I underestimated it when they told us that most kiddos coming home have sleep challenges. I thought 'Oh i had a newborn, I get it'. Nope. This is totally different from anything we saw with Alexis. I want to openly say this so adoptive parents who are waiting know. You gotta prepare yourself for a tough first week home. Tougher then anything we saw in China at night.
During the day Emma is a dream and such a blessing to our family. A few updates since we have been home:
- She eats like a champ & continually uses the signs for 'more' food and 'down' from her high chair.
- She can traverse her way up the stairs (I found her on the landing one day this week so the gates went up immediately) and she just learned yesterday how to go down the stoop to our mudroom (1 step) backwards so she doesn't fall. :-)
- We had our first Dr's Appt and she did great. Poor thing was pricked 4 times for the 12 vials of blood but they got it all eventually and so far so good!
Lexie is loving being a big sister but having a hard time sharing our time. To be expected. Funny story....one day this week Matt walked in the playroom to find Lexie with a pair of kids scissors behind her back and a guilty face. He asked her what she did and she said 'I gave Emma a haircut'. It was all we could do not to smile.
Emma's 'first' haircut from Lexie
Even with all the sleep issues, we were bound and determined to do some 'family' events this week. We went ice skating on Monday (before everyone got sick). Emma slept through the event. Lexie loved her new skates but is still warming up to the idea of being on the ice. She has already asked to go again though so that is a good sign!
Emma sacked out as Lexie and Daddy come back from hitting the ice
We also hit the pool yesterday morning. It was good for about 20 mins until everyone got cold. Still 20 mins is pretty good for an outing!The only glitch -- getting two kiddos plus parents dressed and undressed in a small locker room is clearly still something we need to master, lol.
Emma's first swimming adventure
That is the update for now. We are doing well...so freaking thankful for our employer who give us maternity and paternity leave for the next 9 weeks.